As I read the article assigned to the class discussion it really got me thinking about if spanking of children at a younger age reflects on their older years?
When I was younger my parents never spanked me instead when I got in trouble I would have to go stand in the "No no corner," which was the worst minutes of my life. But yet because my parents didn't spank me when I was bad doesn't mean that other parents didn't. I have a ton of friends who's parents did turn to spanking to punish them and they are some of the sweetest people I know.
I can 100% agree that if some parents took the spanking too far out of hand that yes, when the child being spanked can form into an aggressive adult. I do not think that spanking a child is any way to punish their acts, instead I believe that the "no no corner" or other sources of non violence ways can send the same amount of a message.
I am impressed that in several countries such as Austria, Norway, Denmark, Sweden, and Finland that they banned physical punishment. We have all been to our local Wal-mart where we see parents using some source of violence towards their children, which makes me think what really happens behind close doors? I do not think that violence is the answer to help control your children. So I don't think that parents should spank their children, instead think of other alternatives.
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A clinical psychologist Dr. Thomas W. Phelan designed a program called 123 Magic. Basically it is designed to implement structure in the home with eliminating escalation during attempts of defiance, children sometimes can show. The idea behind this program came from the increased social awareness that spanking is no longer accepted and shows harmful effects. I also believe that spanking your child is not necessary and was not spanked as a child. I have seen this program, 123 Magic, to work on some extreme acts of defiance. However, the program is not perfect as with spanking is not. Spanking taking to the extreme, excessive force, or even daily, probably would reinforce that the word no or troublesome behaviors are followed with a spanking. To these degrees, I would agree that this would create increase in violence later in life. Also, I believe that some who have received an occasional swat on the butt for doing something extreme does not automatically get a precursor for increased violence, as adults.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with your point. My parents never spanked me when I was younger, and instead would explain to me what I did wrong or put me in a corner. These methods worked for me, and I believe this works better than spanking a child.
ReplyDeleteI also agree with these statements. I was never spanked growing up. I was usually sat down and talked to about what I did and why it was wrong. The discussions usually lasted quite a few minutes because my parents were very thorough. Those long talks were enough to make me not want to misbehave again.
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