Friday, June 19, 2009
Bullying
I was raised in two households, in two separate towns and by two very different sets of parents. I had two separate lives and two very different peer groups to try and fit into. My father and step mom raised my sister and I in Alaska during the school year and then we would come to Montana during the summers to stay with my mom. I loved it and wanted with all my heart to live full time with her. (My mother by the way is a very outed lesbian, which does play a part in this story.) Finally my wish came true and i was able to live with her full time by the age of 14. I then moved to Butte , and started 8th grade at East Jr. High. Moving from Ketchikan I didn't think that the kids would be that different especially regarding my mothers sexual preference. Really none of my friends in AK. cared either way it was my mom and had nothing to do with me. Kids actually asked questions and were very curious, nobody was cruel to me and i don't think that they even thought to be. When I came to Montana it was a completely different world. I had a couple friends from the previous summers spent here that I could talk to and sit with at lunch, at least I thought I did. The minute the word got out about my mom i was outcast and ridiculed. I was teased, threatened, and heckled. This went on for weeks before I could not deal with it anymore. I started skipping school by hiding in my house so my mom wouldn't find me. Finally the school caught on and I of course was caught. At this point I told my mom what had been happening at school and as any good mother would she went right to the school with all of this. Nothing happened to anyone I just had to deal with it, I had to learn to deal with it! It made me stronger! That was the worst time of my life and I did make some friends that year that were just as much outcast as I was, and they will be my friends for the rest of my life. I feel for every kid that has ever been picked on teased or bullied. It feels like your world is wrong and its all your fault. These kids had nothing better to do and nothing better to accomplish with there time than to take my self esteem and drag it through the dirt. Although all of this had really nothing to do with me just a bunch a scared kids not understanding life. Like i said it made me stronger and I meant that!! I have never in my life let anybody treat me like that again. I beg that my girls do not ever have to go through what i have had to experience. I hope that if they do they can talk to me and we can deal with it together. I would never wish for anybody to have this happen to them.
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Thank you for sharing. I had a rather difficult time in junior high school too. It happened after I was sexually assaulted by my best friends step-father. You can imagine how the situation went. I moved here when I was a freshman in high school and my new step-dad was not a fan of my weight. He used to weigh me in front of all my brothers and sisters and measure out all of my food every day. He used to tell my baby sister and brother that if they didn't stop eating all the time they would grow up to be fat and lazy just like their big sister. My point is, it has taken me a long time to weed all of these things out of what my view of my own character is. Even now, I sometimes wonder if I do as much as I do because I'm trying to convince myself still that I'm not lazy. I just can really identify with the differences between behavioral self-blame and characterological self-blame.
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